An Islamic marriage is very important in its culture and religion. Marriage / Nikah and family are the most important things in a Muslims life. The Quran mentions two types of marriages / Nikah. It is considered to be a social contract between a man and a woman. Unlike many others, this religion considers man and women equal.
Marriage / Nikah is a gift, a special bond between man and woman, husband and wife. Much has been written about how we should behave towards Muslim women after marriage / Nikah, but no texts are more appropriate than the teachings of the Holy Quran and the traditions of the Prophet of Islam sallallahoAlaiheWasallam. With Online Muslim Matrimonial, we have attempted to bring together information on marriage / Nikah etiquette from a variety of sources, which we hope will guide and inspire you.
And one of His signs is that He created mates for you from yourselves that you may find rest in them, and He put between you love and compassion; most surely there are signs in this for a people who reflect. [Holy Quran, Surah ar-Rum 30:21]
There has not been created any institution in Islam which is more favoured and dearer to Allah than marriage / Nikah. [The Prophet of Islam (saw)]
Walimah is an official lunch or dinner invitation by the groom and his family to their family and friends to declare the marriage / Nikah. In most countries, Walima is followed within a day or two after the dukhlah.
Muslim Engagement -
Before marriage / Nikah, an engagement process is bride’s and groom’s intention to marry each other. Some Islamic opinions on this matter are included in the Muslim Engagement section
Muslim Marriage in Quran
Quran makes many references to marriage / Nikah that can be found in the Quran on Muslim Marriage link.
The prophet Muhammad sallallahoAlaiheWasallam said: “When the servant of Allah marries, he has fulfilled half the (responsibilities laid on him by the) faith; so let him be God conscious with respect to the other half”. (Mishkat).
Maintaining a Healthy Muslim Marriage
“A man who is not married, even though he may be wealthy is surely poor and needy; and the same is true for a woman.” The Prophet of Islam (saw)
Recent latest marriage / Nikah research confirms that a quality marriage / Nikah is one of the single most important investment that a person can make to live a healthy life. Those who have studied and practiced Islam know that the religion and the teachings and practices of Prophet Muhammad sallallahoAlaiheWasallam, are the best guide to enable Muslim couples to sustain a healthy relationship with each other.
As couples or as couples-to-be, every person knows that disputes and disagreements are bound to be present in every relationship. However, disagreement, disputes and conflicts are natural and healthy only if they are managed properly.
Experience and research also suggests that without investing your time and effort, relationship offer suffers – and unfortunately can become extremely draining on both partners.
“A two Rak’at prayer that a married person establishes is worthier than when a bachelor keeps up prayers at nights and fasts during the days.” The Prophet of Islam (saw)
“The sleep of a married person is better with Allah than an unmarried one who fasts during the day and keeps vigil at night, establishing prayers.” The Prophet of Islam (saw)
“Women were married for four reasons: for their wealth, their status, their beauty and their religion, and that the good Muslims were the ones who married women because of their faith.” (Muslim)
Money A Muslim husband has to agree a financial deal with the prospective wife before marriage / Nikah.
Muslim marriages are frequently arranged by the parents of the young people. This is not an Islamic necessity, but parents are encouraged to do their best to see their offspring settled with good life-partners. Although divorce is allowed, the ideal is to settle down with a life-partner, and of all the things God does permit, divorce is said to be the thing He likes least.
Most young Muslims live sheltered lives, and are not encouraged to mix freely with the opposite sex – and consequently are protected from the business of ‘falling in love’, which can lead to all sorts of heartaches, clouded judgement, unsuitable relationships, and tragic consequences.
It is forbidden in Islam for parents (or others) to force, coerce, or trick youngsters into marriage / Nikah. Unfortunately, there have been cases in the UK where this has happened amongst Muslims, Hindus and Sikhs from the Indian subcontinent – but publicity and education in Islam is improving the situation rapidly. Although many marriages are arranged, it has to be with the willing consent of the couple involved, and they should be able to reject possible suitors without embarrassment.
A Muslim girl (and boy) is expected to be a virgin at the time of the first marriage / Nikah. Obviously, this would not be the case for a subsequent marriage.
A Muslim husband has to agree a financial deal with the prospective wife before marriage / Nikah. This money present is known as the mahr, and is a payment made to the bride which is hers to keep and use as she wishes. The reason is that even if the girl has nothing, she becomes a bride with property of her own. If the bride later seeks a divorce which the husband does not wish for, she is allowed to return him the money and seek what is known as a khul divorce. Normally, if a divorce takes place for the usual reasons, the bride would be entitled to keep the mahr.
Sometimes a bride (or her family) demands an enormous mahr. The Prophet (pbuh) set the example of modest sums, and many Muslim women generously use their money to support their husbands and families in some way, although they are not obliged to do so.
If a woman has money of her own, she is not obliged to spend it on her husband or family, but a Muslim husband has the obligation to be able to keep and support his wife and children himself, at his own expense. If a wife goes out to work, or donates money, this is to her credit and is regarded as an act of charity (sadaqah).
The actual Muslim wedding is known as a nikah. It is a simple ceremony, at which the bride does not have to be present so long as she sends two witnesses to the drawn-up agreement. Normally, the ceremony consists of reading from the Quran, and the exchange of vows in front of witnesses for both partners. No special religious official is necessary, but often the Imam is present and performs the ceremony. He may give a short sermon.
There are certain things which are basic to all Muslim marriages. Marriages have to be declared publicly. They should never be undertaken in secret. The publicity is usually achieved by having a large feast, or walimah – a party specifically for the purpose of announcing publicly that the couple are married and entitled to each other.
Many wedding customs are a matter of culture and not of Islam. The bride and groom may be obliged to sit on ‘thrones’ on a platform, to be seen by the guests. They may receive gifts, or gifts of money.
The majority of brides favour a traditional white wedding dress, but brides from the Asian subcontinent often favour a shalwar-qameez outfit in scarlet with gold thread, and have their hands and feet patterned with henna. They might also have vast feasts with hundreds of guests, usually with the males in a separate room from the females. Other Muslims have simple celebratory parties with only close friends and relatives.
In some cultures there may be dancing, firing of guns, lots of noise and hilarity. Asian weddings often include pre-nuptial parties and gathering too – the whole process may last several days.